Sleep with your students | The print


Sure there are college romance between a teacher and a student that continues over a semester. In any case, there is a lot in the novels, it’s even a cliché with some authors, and who knows if that didn’t contribute to the romantic image of such a relationship. A writer like Marie-Sissi Labrèche helped undo it with her novel The violation in 2002, which convinced me to never sleep with a teacher.

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I avoided it when I was studying literature at UQAM because my favorite teacher, the one I went for a drink with after class, was homosexual. Together, we did just that, talking about literature (and Marguerite Duras) for hours. He has been a mentor to me, in the best sense of the word. If he had been straight he is not sure that I would have resisted his advances, he had so much influence on me and I really wanted to please him, in this short period of my so fundamental existence.

But in the 1990s, the cliché was firmly rooted in real life. He was accepted. In 2022 it is worn out, it seems to me. We ended up then by knowing the names of the professors who saw the university as a menagerie of fresh meat renewable every year, in a department where the students (but not the professors) were in the majority. One of my exes who studied biology was almost thinking about changing his plans to find a blonde, so great was the number of cute and smart girls. Sometimes I wonder if, more than for the love of literature, this forge has not decided on certain vocations for children who have become professors of literature.

When I read the proceedings against Professor Samuel Archibald on Wednesday, I was disappointed, but not surprised. His name had been circulating in a list of complaints for some time, without the details being known.

I really enjoyed your collection. Arvida, released in 2011, which created his influence on the media, I also liked the way it mixed pop culture and literature, and we shared an obsession with horror movies – I often talked to him about this topic. But if he has crossed the line with his students, I have no sympathy. Not after #metoo, and the reflection that has developed on power relations in the University. A professor cannot fail to know what he is getting into today if he seduces or harasses a student whose dissertation or thesis he is supervising. Manthis is your problem.

Seduction is part of the teaching. Very often we undertake years of study because we are passionate about something and eager to learn, to receive knowledge. Professor and writer Yvon Rivard published an essay on this topic in 2012 in Boréal, love, teach, where he recalls that teaching is “a work of sharing and awakening desire”. I believe it too. “The more the teacher awakens this desire, the more he exposes himself to be taken and to take himself for God,” he writes.

When we love a teacher who offers us this knowledge, as well as a look at our awakening, often full of complexes and hope, we can love him very much, and I would say that in this seductive relationship, if students are in danger when a predator prevails, even teachers face a danger: that of temptation.

Because all students want to seduce their teachers, and it’s not sexual in nature. We secretly dream that he can see in us intelligence, talent and even genius. Ce qui him women a pouvoir démesuré sur la vision que nous avons de nous-mêmes, alors que toute la classe est suspendue à ses lèvres of him, qu’il décide de la note finale des travaux, et parfois même d’une bourse ou d ‘a station.

We often hear this argument that female students in college are adults and vaccinated. True, but they are still young and in a very unbalanced power relationship. When a professor sets his sights on one of them, he often deludes himself that he is “chosen” among all the others, that an intellectual lightning has occurred. But it is seldom the intellect that these teachers care about and that is exactly what they destroy in their students when they sleep with them. Why then, what is their evaluation of the hard and sincere work on their dissertation or thesis worth, not only in the eyes of others, but in their own eyes? How long can a student carry this doubt into her career and into her life, for believing that she is loved by the very person whose vocation and responsibility are to bring her to the end of herself and not into her bed?


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